A FRIENDS WORKS TO BE A BETTER FRIEND TO YOU!
Always invest energy in developing friendship first. First friendship. Next, relationship. Then courtship. Finally, partnership.
When friendship is on and off, the marriage is off and should never be on.
Friends don't have to be convinced to continue loving you. They love you, because YOU ARE YOU!
A key component in choosing a mate is that: "A friend is aware of your cycles and re-cycles."
They can feel you, even without you, telling them what you are feeling.
I had a friend, who who lost a dear loved one. Sometimes, even years later, they would weep softly. Without, asking them, the Spirit of God would tell me that they were missing this special person.
At such times, I would give them an embrace and say, "you will see them again." Soon their tears would dry and the smile would return.
Point: A friend can sense when you hurt or are hurting. They won't dismiss it or dissect you. Certainly, won't judge you. They surely won't insult you or accuse you.
Even though, they have their own "drama" they would NEVER use that word in addressing you. They may grow weary, but, you never, are dreaded like a bad belch or a whooping cough.
Your number on their caller ID is always a welcome sight. Actually, more, like a delight.
They don't blow their nose to drown out your sound, sadness or search for the feeling of significance. They love to see you HAPPY!
Fellow singles, Your true love will feel you and ENDEAVOUR to always be around, for you.
They will stop traffic for you. Share their sandwich with you. Rub your aching muscles for you. Lotion your elbows to present the refined you. You are convinced they will do what they must do.
They will offer you medicine when you are sick. Even, a hot plate, even though it may be late. That's a friend, not an occasional, PHONE BUDDY.
A friend tells you the truth, but finds gracious words in the process. Their tenderness, knows no recess. They will not allow anyone to dishonor you and won't repeat your name in a disrespectful sentence .
If you are with or thinking of being with someone like this, then, SHAME ON DESPERATE YOU. They will soon, mortally wound your CREATIVE YOU. Because, a future companion doesn't have to be reminded, that they should be there for you.
Let them go now, before they have a chance to do what they do, again and again to you.
They are cognizant, for fear that that their apparent insensitivity and overt and over
concern with others, in replacement of you, would fail the friendship, litmus test.
More importantly, when they really are a friend, you know it by their concern, their ear and their heart. They prove it. They are about it. They do more than talk about it.
Furthermore and far from finally, they don't despise your wisdom. And, your phone will not ring when they get the notion or are bored, or in traffic or transit.
It will ring, just because, the sound of your voice is MUSIC TO THEIR SOUL.
That's a companion in the making. They're yours for the taking.
I hope you only MARRY, A TRUE FRIEND!
Absolutely,
Brian Keith Williams
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